New Ways to Use Signature Strengths Part 4 Strength #3 Open-Mindedness

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Using strengths in new ways improves mood for three to six months, compared to a week or two for using strengths in ways you have before. This means more happiness and less depression for longer. So it’s worth doing.

You want to do something new for a week to get the full impact. So either choose one thing you can do every day for a week, or choose a variety of new things that allow you to do something new every day for a week. For example, you might do one thing for three days, and four things for one day each.

If you think of a new idea that could fit on one of these lists, please let me know in the comments.

3. Open-mindedness [judgment, critical thinking]: this strength involves using logic and rational thought to evaluate theories and thoughts, including considering evidence that goes against personal beliefs. It also involves being analytical when making decisions, and trying to avoid bias. This means being fair when weighing evidence, and considering facts from both sides of an argument. People who have this strength try to avoid jumping to conclusions when they don’t have all the facts. They are also able to change their views when facts or logic indicate they are wrong. Rather than looking only for information that supports their view, they also search for facts that could disprove their beliefs. Open-minded people tend to pause before making a decision and use that time to investigate the facts and apply logic. They base their views on evidence and logic more than the concensus or popular opinion. They use sound judgment, rather than being judgmental. This strength differs from curiosity, which is about exploring questions and finding out things. It also differs from perspective, which involves seeing the bigger picture. Judgment involves the strength of curiosity, which is about asking questions and seeking new knowledge. But it goes beyond that to make decisions about what is true or fair. It also involves perspective, which is about seeing the bigger picture, but goes beyond this to make decisions.

  1. Read a book or online article about logic.
  2. Read up about problem solving methods.
  3. Try reading Problem Solving 101: A Simple Book for Smart People by Ken Watanabe. Originally written for children, it has been eagerly embraced by adults. Reviewers comment that it is quick to read and helpful. The book covers a four-step method illustrated by interesting stories about problem solving.
  4. Or try reading Solving Life’s Problems: A 5-Step Guide to Enhanced Well-Being by psychology professors and problem solving gurus Arthur and Christine M Nezu and Thomas J D’Zurilla. The authors outline a five-step process they call ADAPT, based on Problem Solving Therapy. This covers Attitude, Defining the problem, coming up with Alternative solutions, Predicting consequences and developing a plan and Trying out the solution to see if it works.
  5. If you feel hopeless or recently attempted suicide, learning problem solving skills will mmake youmore than twice as likely to have fewer problems following therapy.i
  6. If you prefer watching and listening to reading, do the Udemy course called Master Class – Creative Problem Solving and Decision Making by Matthew Thomas. This course is for people who are really interested in problem solving and want to go into even more depth. It lasts five and a half hours and has 40 short videos covering thinking styles (including the SCAMPER team brainstorming method), as well as various approaches to problem solving and decision making.
  7. Watch a video about an unfamilar spirituality or philosophy with an open mind.
  8. Talk to someone who has a different way of life to yours and ask one or two open-minded questions about their life.
  9. Attend a lecture on a controversial topic and chat to audience members afterwards.
  10. If your library has a ‘Human Library’ of people from different walks of life, go there and pick someone with a life very different to your own to talk to.
  11. Watch a five minute interview with Dr Lisa Miller, researcher and author of The Awakening Mind, about the science of spirituality. Called Science Shows Spirituality helps ‘Awaken’ your Brain, Author says, it can be found on the ABC News YouTube channel.
  12. Think about a decision you made in the past that you’ve always been uncertain about, or feel unhappy about. Brainstorm and research some other ways you could have dealt with it.
  13. Ask either a person this decision affected, or a friend whose judgment you trust ,to tell you what they think about your decision. Try to listen without defending yourself or interrupting, then go away and think about it.
  14. If you feel suicidal, or are recovering from a suicide attempt, create a Suicide Prevention/Safety Plan of things you can do and people you can do to stay safe. Having a safety plan almost halved the risk of suicidal behavior according to an analysis of multiple studies.ii
  15. Do a course on a spirituality/religion that is new to you on the spiritualityandpractice.com website. It has a lot of good courses on spirituality, some in the format of 40 daily lessons delivered by email, others in the video lesson format. One is Practicing Spirituality with the World’s Religions and costs $40 and is on-demand. It includes teachings from Buddhism, Christianity, Confucianism, Hinduism, Sufism, Judaism, Taoism, and Native American spirituality. The format is 40 lessons delivered via email. Each contains a short passage about the wisdom of one religion as well as a way to practice that thought as you go about your daily activities. Links take you to the reviews of the books that the passages come from. (It also has other courses on specific religions, including Hinduism, Christianity, Judaism and Buddhism, in the same format.) There are also free courses available.
  16. Think about why people end up believing and following the religions that they grow up with, or that are popular or common in their local area rather than religions from another area, and what this says about religion in general.
  17. Choose one of your habits or regular activities. Ask yourself why you do this, when and why you started, what benefits it has for you, what downsides, whether you want to continue doing it.
  18. Go to a cultural or multi-cultural event and tune in to your thoughts and feelings during it and after you leave it. Look for signs of implicit bias – discriminatory views you are not consciously aware of.
  19. If there are aspects of these events or cultures you don’t understand, do research by reading or talking to experts that helps you understand them better.
  20. Think about possible reasons you have failed to achieve a valued goal in the past. Can you see any patterns? Ask people who know you well what they think, take notes and try to resist the temptation to prove they are wrong!
  21. If you see a pattern, decide to change. Start working on a plan to do things differently in future, including thoughts, beliefs, values, actions, with times you are going to do specific things.
  22. Choose a decision you need to make. Make a list of pros for doing it one way, and cons for that way. Possibly assign points to each pro or con to show how important it is, from 1 being least important to 10 being most important.
  23. Volunteer to work with, coach, tutor or mentor individuals from ethnic, cultural or religious groups you are not familiar with. This could be in woodwork, sport, English, cooking or some other area you are skilled in.
  24. Challenge your confirmation bias by choosing a dearly held belief and looking for information and views that contradict this belief.
  25. If you have a challenging situation facing you, think about the best it could turn out and the worst. Then assess which view is most realistic by looking for factual and logical reasons to support it. Ask trusted advisors or the internet what they think.
  26. Pick a current event, then follow reporting on it on different media. Look for how different news outlets or social media platforms report it differently. Try to work out what the facts are about it using the best, most reliable sources of information you can.

iTownsend E et al (2001) The Efficacy of Problem-Solving Treatments after Deliberate Self-Harm: Meta-Analysis of Randomized Controlled Trials with Respect to Depression, Hopelessness and Improvement in Problems, Psychological Medicine, 31(6): 979-988.

iiNuij C et al (2021) Safety Planning-Type Interventions for Suicide Prevention: Meta-Analysis, The British Journal of Psychiatry, 219(2): 419-426

New Ways to Use Signature Strengths part 3 Strength #2 Curiosity

Using strengths in new ways improves mood for three to six months, compared to a week or two for using strengths in ways you have before. This means more happiness and less depression for longer. So it’s worth doing.

You want to do something new for a week to get the full impact. So either choose one thing you can do every day for a week, or choose a variety of new things that allow you to do something new every day for a week. For example, you might do one thing for three days, and four things for one day each.

If you think of a new idea that could fit on one of these lists, please let me know in the comments.

Strength #2 Curiosity

2. Curiosity [interest, novelty-seeking, openness to experience]: this strength involves trying new things and searching for new knowledge. The new things could be activities, challenging opportunities or other experiences. The new experiences could involve meeting people, travel, or learning new skills. Learning could involve a quest to answer a specific question, or just the desire to know new things in general. Curious people are interested in the new and unknown. They are also interested in asking questions and building their knowledge. Studies show that curiosity is linked to life satisfaction, happiness, better health, living longer and getting on well with others.

  1. List of new ways to use this strength
  1. Take a bus or drive or walk to a park you haven’t been to before.
  2. Go to a new museum or art gallery or new exhibit at a museum/gallery you’ve been to before.
  3. Say to yourself “I wonder if I can do this – it will be interesting to find out” when faced with a challenge or new project. Try to focus more on curiosity than fear of failure.
  4. Sign up for a class on a new topic that you find interesting.
  5. Walk to work a different way.
  6. When you meet someone new, wonder what they could tell you that you’ve never heard before – ask them questions about their life to see what experiences they’ve had that are different or interesting.
  7. Buy a tent or a van and stay at places you’ve never been to before. See what’s there that you had no idea about.
  8. Go to a restaurant or cafe you haven’t been to before.
  9. Try a new food, possibly from a different culture.
  10. Explore a new area or neighborhood on foot.
  11. Wonder about the people who live in each house.
  12. Look for new information on a topic you are interested in but know nothing about.
  13. Attend a talk or event from a different culture from the one(s) you grew up with.
  14. Think about what is different about this culture and look for values, rituals and activities you might like to add to your own life.
  15. Pick a country you’d like to visit and find out about places to visit, activities, local customs and transport.
  16. Ask someone who is enthusiastic about a topic you’re interested in for new information and ideas and how you can learn more.
  17. Go onto Reddit and type one or two letters in the search box, starting with A, then Aa, then Ab etc. See what topics come up and which ones you feel excited about or interested in.
  18. Check out the groups for these topics and join the ones that interest you.
  19. Attend or set up a discussion group, salon or tertulia to talk about things the people there are passionate about. Invite people you find interesting, even if their interests are different from yours.
  20. Make a meal you’ve never made before from a different culture, using ingredients you’re not familiar with, such as palm sugar, seaweed, jellyfish or shrimp paste.
  21. If you live near a library that holds a ‘Human Library’ of different types of people, go along and talk to someone you wouldn’t normally interact with.
  22. Volunteer at a food bank or charity store, and talk to the people who come in and find out about their lives.
  23. Try and find out something you don’t know about your own culture.
  24. Compile a list of things you want to know about your favorite topic, then try to answer them, using online resources, libraries, experts and people you know who are also interested in that topic.
  25. Research a historical era that interests or intrigues you.
  26. Visit a town, district, state or country you haven’t been to before. Explore it by foot or e-scooter, and really look at houses, trees, gardens, statues and artworks.
  27. See if you can strike up a conversation with someone there who can tell you a bit more about the place, especially someone who has lived there a long time.
  28. Make a list of your top three interests and look for groups, conferences, shows, fairs or meetings that you could attend about one of them.
  29. Ask a friend who has a completely different interest to you to talk about it. Listen and ask questions about anything you don’t understand or find interesting.
  30. Try to learn a new skill, even if you’re not terribly interested in it, such as paper making, candle making, playing an instrument or crochet.
  31. Listen to a podcast on a topic that interests you, or even a random topic you’re not particularly drawn to.

My Map of the Hero’s Journey from Depression to Happiness is now for sale

So why a map? I came up with this idea because the book I’m writing about how to get from depression to happiness was getting very complex. It occurred to me that it would be really helpful to have a picture that illustrated what I was talking about at a glance. So the map was born.

It is based on a LOT of research, as well as my own experience. The territories that people move through are based on stages of change from the Transtheoretical Model (TTM) of healthy behavior change, which describes the process people go through in developing new habits in a range of areas – substance abuse, crime, eating, and depression among them.

This model is based on a HUGE amount of research. In addition, I have the 20 Travel Tips to guide heroes along the trail. These are based on a lot more studies, as well as my own personal experience of transforming depression into happiness.

The trail visuals are based on the infamous Oregon Trail of the late 1800s, a brutal, challenging journey undertaken by people in hope of a new and better life. I felt this was a good analogy for the challenging journey we face when we set out to change the thoughts, behaviors, relationships and habits that keep us depressed.

I wanted to illustrate a few ideas with this map:

  1. that becoming happy involves a journey, with multiple challenges. I think the more severely you are depressed or the longer you’ve suffered from depression, the more challenging that journey will be. It’s not about doing a few simple things, unless your depression is mild and recent. It involves a lot more, and takes a lot of courage and resolve.
  2. That brings me onto the next thing I wanted to highlight with the map. That those of us who undertake this journey are heroes. We are so accustomed to being seen and talked about negatively that this might be a surprising idea. But I see every one of us as heroes. We did not ask to have depression and we do our best every day to cope, despite the lethargy and low motivation that are symptoms of this illness.
  3. It is not about jumping straight into action. There are stages before this.
  4. There are strategies that work best at each stage of the journey.

One thing that may surprise you about this map is that you don’t see the usual self-help strategies for depression anywhere. Don’t worry – I haven’t left them out! They just form a separate part of my book. Called 65 Delicious Dishes to Defeat Depression and Hasten Happiness, they include all the major self-help techniques taken from a list of over 100 types of mood therapy. You’ll see references to choosing and using ‘dishes’ in the Travel Tips.

The dishes are the foods that give you sustenance on the journey, just as hobbits had elven bread and Oregon Trail travelers had hard tack. Along with some more appetizing foods when times were good! The central principle of choosing from the dishes is to pick what appeals to you, because people have different tastes. I’m working on a poster to illustrate the 65 Delicious Dishes, but that’s a while off.

So how do you use this map? There are a few ways:

  1. look at it and try to work out what Territory you are in – in other words, what Stage of Change you’re at. Are you just starting out, taking some practical steps, into full-on action or maintaining your changes?
  2. You can also see what challenges may be coming up, which helps you plan for them.
  3. Lastly, you can look at the Travel Tips in the Territory you’re currently in and see if any of them can help you on your journey.

If you want a copy of the map for yourself you can buy it at my online Redbubble store called KayesHappyShop.